There are two types of people on weekends. The first category of people snuggles into their blankets, switch to Netflix, and spend the entire day in the comfort of their beds. The second category is the one who calls their friends and families, makes plans to go out, and catch up on all the details they have been missing.
While there is nothing majorly wrong in the first scenario but over time, you become habitual to it. You get so engrossed in this digital world that you forget the value of real-life connections. You start declining the calls of your best friends willing to meet you for long just because you have to complete this new series that you can’t get enough of.
You start ignoring your parents when they call you for dinner because you prefer staying in your bed and watching videos as you enjoy your food. While you might not realize it at first glance but over time you get so accustomed to this habit of intentional isolation that you lose track of your relationships.
Man is a social being. Socialization is an important aspect of our personality formation. It shapes our entire existence. Socialization occurs when one interacts with other people. It is a lifetime process which has been introduced to us since childhood.
With so much on the plate, we often tend to ignore these primary human relations. We do not take out enough time from our busy lives to get in touch with people who actually matter. Today, I will be talking about 5 signs you are not socializing enough.
SIGN 1: You Lack Motivation
You have suddenly lost all your motivation and feel like just lying there and not doing anything. You feel low, unproductive, and demotivated. You feel like you don’t even have enough strength to get past the day without major mental breakdowns. You start feeling ‘Monday blues’ basically on every day of the week. Do you know why? It is because you are not socializing enough.
Meeting new people and forming meaningful connections is one of the primary needs of a human being. We need social as well as the intellectual stimulation of meeting new people to revive our interest in life. Contrary to what most people believe, we cannot spend a happy life in complete isolation.
Exchanging thoughts and ideas with like-minded people is inspiring and can introduce us to newer perspectives. A conversation with someone can be energizing and helpful in uplifting our spirits. It can give you ideas and get your creative juices flowing. Networking with people helps you build confidence, boost your productivity levels, and encourage you to work towards better things.
The solution? Get together with someone in person over a cup of coffee. Otherwise, just pick up your phone, dial their number and have a heartfelt conversation. In no time, you will feel better.
SIGN 2: You Use Unnecessary Distractions To Fill The Void
Time flies when you’re with your favorite persons! However, it becomes equally difficult to pass time when alone. Let me illustrate- Imagine it for yourself. When you are going to work, meeting new people, and socializing in one way or another; the whole day passes so quickly. You went to the office at 9 am and the next thing you know it’s 6 and time to go home. You attain a self of achievement that- YES. I did something productive today.
Now paint this picture- You are lazily lying there on the bed win your PJ’s, mindlessly scrolling through social media and completely oblivious to the changes around you. You woke up really late at noon, now you’re having dinner and suddenly you are confronted with the daunting reality- “I didn’t do anything productive today.”
When you don’t go out enough, you think of other ways to pass time and fill the void in your life. You get bored easily and start looking for things which could lift you out of boredom. As a result, most of us spend our day watching Netflix from midnight to morning, then waking really late and then doing nothing fruitful. This cycle repeats until we are completely worn out and have no energy to deal with other social situations.
The problem with this habit is that you waste your precious time and energy doing something which doesn’t yield any fruitful result or add any sort of value to your life. You could’ve used this time effectively in learning a new skill or working towards something which will reap you results in the future. You could’ve used this time to focus on developing relationships with people who actually matter. But what did you do? You wasted your entire day doing nothing.
The solution? Start living in the moment. Think of all the beautiful experiences the world has to offer. Think of all the new learning possibilities we have every day. Think of all the knowledge still left to gain. Shift your focus from virtual to real.
SIGN 3: You Struggle To Get Out Of Bed Every Morning
Do you find it hard to get out of bed every morning because you dread being alone? Do you have difficulty sleeping at night thinking that you have nothing to look forward to? Do you feel like you don’t have a larger purpose? Do you feel like you are just existing and not ‘living’ life?
If you find yourself in such situations, you need to get some social support. Over time this habit of not socializing becomes so evident that you think it is habitual. But what you don’t realize is that it messes up with the proper functioning of you as an individual.
You start sleeping more and become less active with every passing day. You might be familiar with the phrase “sleeping away from your problems.” Yes, you become the perfect embodiment of this saying.
You think sleeping is the best solution to avoid bigger problems in life. You feel like sleeping will solve your problems and that refrains you from taking a more practical approach towards difficult situations.
The solution? Try engaging yourself in other activities which can kick start your morning. You can always go for a brisk morning walk in your neighborhood park wherein you can connect with people. You can get up early and make breakfast with your mother or your roommate and have a little chat in the meantime. Surround yourself with people who add value in your life!
SIGN 4: Your Friends Stop Inviting You
The group of friends you had since forever suddenly stopped inviting you to their regular hangouts. They are going out and having the time of their lives, doing all sorts of fun activities excluding you. You come across their posts and stories on social media and feel a little disheartened. But then you never make a proper effort to ask them- “What’s up? Why am I not invited? Where did I go wrong?”
Primarily and ironically, this is the reason. Yes, you not making an effort to catch up with them is the reason that you are now experiencing FOMO. You intentionally or unintentionally ignore their texts and come up with excuses every time they ask to meet.
So, if you are starting to see more pictures of your friends hanging out on social media without you, it is a wakeup call. You can’t always come up with new excuses and then blame them for not inviting you. They will make initial attempts but when they see no initiative or efforts from your side, they will ultimately stop. With time, people get accustomed to the way you treat them. It’s ultimately your responsibility to initiate and keep the conversation going.
The solution? It is about time to revive all the fun you’ve been missing for the longest time. Make memories that you’ll cherish forever, experience different things, and embrace moments as they come. After all, life is too short to say no to new experiences. So, say yes to more invites and watch your social life flourish!
SIGN 5: You Are Not Meeting Anyone New
If you’re tired of seeing the same few faces every day, there is an alarming need for you to socialize. You need to meet new people in order to expand your network. New friends, acquaintances, romantic prospects, professional connections- the options are endless.
Especially, in this digital age where there are so many apps that allow you to connect with people from the comfort of your homes; it becomes extremely important that you do something on your part.
Meeting new people opens the door for so many new opportunities and you might end up bonding really well with someone. You can develop lifelong friendships with people who will always be there through your thick and thins. Meeting new people can create a sense of belongingness, boost your happiness and reduce stress significantly.
There is no point in staying in your little comfort zone and then cribbing about the unfairness of life later. You have the power to make a change. You are the one who has to get out of their beds and look out for people. You are the one who has to continue conversations from the point where they were left off. You are the creator of your own destiny.
The solution? If you want to enrich your existing knowledge while simultaneously building connections, it is important to make some changes. You need to go out rather than whining. You need to talk to more people instead of judging them from a distance. Staying positive is key. You might not always end up being friends with every person you meet. But you have to maintain a healthy and friendly attitude to attract more.
A decent and reasonable amount of socialization is necessary for your overall well-being. You don’t need to become a complete social butterfly- throwing and attending parties, being there at every event, and having a large circle of friends.
You just need to take out enough time from your hectic schedule to maintain your existing relationships. These relationships will flourish only if you put in enough effort from your side. You cannot expect one-sided relationships to last a lifetime.
Go out, socialize, and live your life to the fullest!
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